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How do we do it? Our Program

Grow for Glory and the Word of Life ministries, Gopher Buddies program, forms an inspiring and exclusive discipleship system for Children. We are committed to serve the child by making God’s word come alive in their hearts with precision and clarity that will be remembered for a lifetime.    

How the Program Actually Works?

At registration, each child will receive a daily quiet-time booklet that includes a reward system and set of stickers that is often more enjoyed by parents than the children themselves. After the weekly G-Buddies gathering, each child in the Club will receive an additional colourful handout explaining the weekly lessons to the parents – these correspond with the lessons in the quiet-time booklet for that particular week. Parents are also welcome and advised to make use of the parental page on our website www.growforglory.co.za that is designed to help parents fulfil their biblical mandate and raise Godly children. We are continuously

Children need to learn to obey, but not merely to make their parents’ lives easier. They learn obedience because it builds good character. Obedience isn’t just about getting tasks done. We teach obedience because hidden within this character quality are a number of principles that will help children to be successful in life.

When kids learn obedience, they learn to consider the needs of others. They learn to be a little less selfish. They learn to fit into the agenda of those around them. They learn to submit to authority. Children who learn to obey their parents are better prepared to obey God as they grow older.

Obedience involves learning to do what you’re told even when you think you have a better way or you’d rather do something else. The person who has learned obedience knows how to listen to an instruction, how to follow through without being watched, and how to report back [...]

Some children struggle with things externally, acting out, getting in trouble at school or with the law, and disobeying their parents. Through these actions they often learn valuable life lessons. It’s not the best way to learn, and the experiences they face are often unforgiving and painful.

Other children may conform to the rules outwardly, but inside they’re wrestling just as fervently—and significantly—as the outwardly rebellious child. They mull things over and make wishes and longings. The actions may look different, but the heart-struggle is the same.

The story of the prodigal son, found in Luke 15:11-32, illustrates this well. While the focus is on the rebellious younger brother in the parable, we get a glimpse into the internal struggles of the seemingly compliant older brother. Both brothers had heart problems. They just dealt with them in different ways.

Some parents spend a lot of energy trying to help the prodigal and not as much [...]

The Most Common Parenting Question of All

The question we’re probably asked the most often in our parenting seminars and radio interviews is, “What do I do when my kids act out in the grocery store?” We all have stories from our own families and we’ve observed other children throw tantrums, run away, whine, complain, or disobey in the store. We may write a booklet someday called, “How to Parent in Public.”  Then we could all carry around these booklets and hand them out to frustrated parents in public places.

At least part of the answer is that you don’t practice your discipline strategies in the grocery store. That’s the final exam! You practice in the kitchen, bedroom, laundry room, and backyard. Children need to learn how to handle disappointment at home so they can accept a no answer in the check out line. Our kids need to learn to come when they’re called so [...]

“I love coming to church, ‘cause I get to see my friends!” Trevor announced to his mom as they entered the children’s area. As Trevor walked into his kindergarten classroom, he immediately greeted Caleb and Mei. They invited Trevor to help build a tall block tower; then he regaled his friends with a new joke.

At ages 5 and 6, children typically love to make friends and to be with friends. They thrive on the encouragement and praise of key adults. In his popular book,Yardsticks, Chip Wood summarizes, “The importance of friends now rivals the importance of parents and teachers in the child’s social development. Classrooms full of six-year-olds are busy, noisy places. Talking, humming, whistling, bustling is the order of the day” (p. 59).

God’s Wisdom
Children need to belong; they desire to be included with peers. Kindergarteners need to enjoy healthy outside-the-home relationships. Learning how to have great friendships begins with BEING [...]

One of the greatest sources of sadness and discouragement for parents is watching their children fight. Teasing, bickering, arguing, and meanness wear heavily on a parent’s heart. Is sibling conflict inevitable? Yes and no. Sibling conflict is an opportunity. The family is a place where we learn and grow. Getting along with sinful people is never easy, and nowhere is it more difficult than in family life.

Sibling conflict is a child’s first class in relationship training. You are the teacher, your home is the classroom, and honor is the curriculum. Developing honor as a lifestyle in your family can turn relationships around. Honor is the solution to sibling conflict. In fact honor is the solution for all relationship struggles.

We believe that God has placed every person in a family for a reason. Sometimes a child is annoying or irritating. That’s a problem and that child needs to learn self-control and sensitivity to overcome [...]

It’s easy to focus on how far children need to go instead of how far they’ve come. One way to keep a positive focus in your discipline is to look for approximately right behavior and affirm it. Don’t wait until things are absolutely right.

If you ask your child to clean up the toys but find that he’s only put away two things and left six out, you might say, “Oh, I see you put the blocks away, that’s great! and I like the way you lined up your trucks, now let me see you put the balls in the box where they belong.”

You’re encouraging steps in the right direction. One little boy was learning to dress himself and Mom had a rule that he needed to be dressed before coming to the breakfast table. When he came downstairs with his shirt on backwards and his shoes missing, she still praised him. He was [...]

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